Twilight.......
I remember when Twilight came out - the mass hysteria over Edward and Bella and their undying, eternal love. It was the same kind of love we all dreamed of and swooned over after watching Titanic and Sixteen Candles..... Man, I wanted to be Molly Ringwald so bad.
I remember when Twilight came out - the mass hysteria over Edward and Bella and their undying, eternal love. It was the same kind of love we all dreamed of and swooned over after watching Titanic and Sixteen Candles..... Man, I wanted to be Molly Ringwald so bad.
Twilight though... was different. Now it wasn't just teenage girls - now there was something called TwiMoms and they were *serious* about this whole eternity thing..... and I'll be honest.... I was worried for a few friends and their marriages. I watched some of my friends get *really* attached to the idea that their husband *be* Edward and that all of a sudden their marriage of years and struggles and life gone by.... suddenly measure up to the excitement of the newness of finding someone who makes your insides smile.
Usually... most marriages can't stand up to that kind of comparison. Often, it's chasing that same old feeling that brings people to cheating on their partners.... ironically, I foolishly thought my marriage wasn't such a marriage.
Lololol.... joke was on me, eh? :)
Fast forward a year and a lot of healing later..... I find myself kind of enjoying that funny feeling again.
It's kind of nice. The perk to being single again at 38 ('Cuz ya'll know I got one year old last month... hahaha)
Anyhow. So..... I kinda sorta met someone who is ... interesting. It's *super* early days - but really.... aren't those the best ones? Like, when it's still fresh and new and just the excitement of what's to come makes your stomach all flippy-floppy every time they text you....
Oh... and for those of you born *before* the dawn of Unlimited Texting Plan..... text is kind of the way people go now. You'll meet someone and they'll ask you for your phone number... but they won't call. Lord no..... remember that whole "The Rules" thing in the 90s - where you were supposed to wait three days before *calling* someone?
Those days are gone.
Usually... most marriages can't stand up to that kind of comparison. Often, it's chasing that same old feeling that brings people to cheating on their partners.... ironically, I foolishly thought my marriage wasn't such a marriage.
Lololol.... joke was on me, eh? :)
Fast forward a year and a lot of healing later..... I find myself kind of enjoying that funny feeling again.
It's kind of nice. The perk to being single again at 38 ('Cuz ya'll know I got one year old last month... hahaha)
Anyhow. So..... I kinda sorta met someone who is ... interesting. It's *super* early days - but really.... aren't those the best ones? Like, when it's still fresh and new and just the excitement of what's to come makes your stomach all flippy-floppy every time they text you....
Oh... and for those of you born *before* the dawn of Unlimited Texting Plan..... text is kind of the way people go now. You'll meet someone and they'll ask you for your phone number... but they won't call. Lord no..... remember that whole "The Rules" thing in the 90s - where you were supposed to wait three days before *calling* someone?
Those days are gone.
Long gone.
No one is going to call you.
Hopefully though... your phone will ping instead: and you'll get a text message.
They are usually rather benign - "Hey... how's your day?" or the classic "Whatcha' doin?"
Of course, wanting someone to text me back, I leave out the really glamorous parts of my day and I don't text back... "well, I just folded my second load of laundry and wiped someone's poopy ass....."
Mostly because people don't find poop to be very sexy talk.... lol
And... umm... if they *do* find poop to be sexy talk then I probably don't want to be texting with them in the first place. lol
In any case - conversations usually go the rather bland get-to-know-you route until one of you starts asking pertinent life questions...
What do you do for fun.....?
ANSWER: if you want them to ask you out, say things like "oh I'm always up for whatever new adventure on the weekends... I'll try anything once!" - DO NOT admit that you are dog ass tired come Saturday after a looooong week of work and kids and going for a hike in the rain is about the *last* thing you want to do. No one wants to date a couch potato... so get your boots on and suck it up.
MY ANSWER: just about anything so long as I like the people I'm with... and yes, I'll try most anything at least once so long as my clothes stay on. lol
Do you like the outdoors? OR - How much time do you spend outdoors?
ANSWER: If you live in the Pacific NorthWest there is only ONE correct answer to this question: ALL THE F*CKING TIME. Good gawd.... don't admit that you prefer the covered sanctuary of a movie theater.... you need to have your best Columbia/REI face on and tell them that you spend *as much time* as possible in the great and wonderful outdoors.
MY ANSWER: I would go camping for/with the right person... but I do have a bit of a fear of wide open spaces - I mean bears eat people and dingos *do* eat babies dammit.... aside from that, I love a good road trip with an enjoyable hike or activity. However, I'm not looking to get my f*cking rock climbing Girl Scout badge every damn weekend. lol
Why did your last relationship break-up?
ANSWER: For all for all of you... you have the luxury of keeping it simple and sweet: we grew apart, we didn't meet each other's needs.... blah blah. Lucky bastards... *I* no longer have this option. lol
MY ANSWER: a myriad of reasons... some of which are my fault, some are his... but you can read it all online if you choose... I have nothing to hide (nor do I have the opportunity to hide). lol I worry about this because finding all of that online... that's *a lot* for someone to take in all at once.... but, hopefully if they are the right person they will understand it for what it is and be ok with it.....
Generally - my policy to be as honest as possible.... which usually is less attractive to most people.... which is fine. I think we all know just *how* honest I am and I don't really know how to be any other way.... sigh.
I kind of wish I did, but that ship sailed when we were the running news leader for YAHOO news. lol
So.... assuming they like your answers and you like theirs... so begins your "text-capade". This is different from a usual 'dating' kind of thing because it's pretty much all over text until you meet up again..... hours and hours of your phone making little pinging noises and your friends getting annoyed because you're not paying attention to them at dinner. lol
No one is going to call you.
Hopefully though... your phone will ping instead: and you'll get a text message.
They are usually rather benign - "Hey... how's your day?" or the classic "Whatcha' doin?"
Of course, wanting someone to text me back, I leave out the really glamorous parts of my day and I don't text back... "well, I just folded my second load of laundry and wiped someone's poopy ass....."
Mostly because people don't find poop to be very sexy talk.... lol
And... umm... if they *do* find poop to be sexy talk then I probably don't want to be texting with them in the first place. lol
In any case - conversations usually go the rather bland get-to-know-you route until one of you starts asking pertinent life questions...
What do you do for fun.....?
ANSWER: if you want them to ask you out, say things like "oh I'm always up for whatever new adventure on the weekends... I'll try anything once!" - DO NOT admit that you are dog ass tired come Saturday after a looooong week of work and kids and going for a hike in the rain is about the *last* thing you want to do. No one wants to date a couch potato... so get your boots on and suck it up.
MY ANSWER: just about anything so long as I like the people I'm with... and yes, I'll try most anything at least once so long as my clothes stay on. lol
Do you like the outdoors? OR - How much time do you spend outdoors?
ANSWER: If you live in the Pacific NorthWest there is only ONE correct answer to this question: ALL THE F*CKING TIME. Good gawd.... don't admit that you prefer the covered sanctuary of a movie theater.... you need to have your best Columbia/REI face on and tell them that you spend *as much time* as possible in the great and wonderful outdoors.
MY ANSWER: I would go camping for/with the right person... but I do have a bit of a fear of wide open spaces - I mean bears eat people and dingos *do* eat babies dammit.... aside from that, I love a good road trip with an enjoyable hike or activity. However, I'm not looking to get my f*cking rock climbing Girl Scout badge every damn weekend. lol
Why did your last relationship break-up?
ANSWER: For all for all of you... you have the luxury of keeping it simple and sweet: we grew apart, we didn't meet each other's needs.... blah blah. Lucky bastards... *I* no longer have this option. lol
MY ANSWER: a myriad of reasons... some of which are my fault, some are his... but you can read it all online if you choose... I have nothing to hide (nor do I have the opportunity to hide). lol I worry about this because finding all of that online... that's *a lot* for someone to take in all at once.... but, hopefully if they are the right person they will understand it for what it is and be ok with it.....
Generally - my policy to be as honest as possible.... which usually is less attractive to most people.... which is fine. I think we all know just *how* honest I am and I don't really know how to be any other way.... sigh.
I kind of wish I did, but that ship sailed when we were the running news leader for YAHOO news. lol
So.... assuming they like your answers and you like theirs... so begins your "text-capade". This is different from a usual 'dating' kind of thing because it's pretty much all over text until you meet up again..... hours and hours of your phone making little pinging noises and your friends getting annoyed because you're not paying attention to them at dinner. lol
I have to say ..... because of this persons work schedule I've turned into a bit of a Pavlov's Dog whereby every time my phone pings and their little icon comes up on my phone.... I smile. It's so, so so so so so sad. It's completely uncontrollable, too. I've tried to ignore my phone, turn off my phone... leave it in the other room... but it beckons to me.... come turn me on - come illuminate my screen and check me!!!!!
I swear - I can hear it all the way in the other room.
Sigh.
Younger me might be to the stage of writing "Mrs. So-and-So" on the cover of my Trapper Keeper.... older, wiser me, however, is just enjoying the flippy-floppy of the tummy for what it is: exciting.
Exciting just is what it is.... fun, new, adventure.... without expectations or plans. Plans have a way of f*cking you right in the ass.... so. No more plans for this girl... just wel
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