Tom Leykis said:
You're NOT a single mother. The kids have a father, you nitwit. Maybe if you would've lost some of that lard on your ass he'd have stayed. I'm happy for him. You're fat and unattractive.
You're NOT a single mother. The kids have a father, you nitwit. Maybe if you would've lost some of that lard on your ass he'd have stayed. I'm happy for him. You're fat and unattractive.
The above is a "blog comment" submitted by someone with a Long Beach IP address and "claims" to be the nationally syndicated radio host Tom Leykis. Of course I have no way of knowing if this is the *actual* Mr. Leykis or a like-minded listener of his radio show.
I have listened to Mr. Leykis' show before and the comments above are certainly within the bounds of something Mr. Leykis would say. I have to admit that I have listened to Mr. Leykis' show several times and can appreciate both his sense of humor and his.... unique? perspective on relationships and women in particular. He frequently discuss's a woman's weight or looks as a means to find "value" in her.
In the first place, I want to make sure we operate from the same definition of what a "single Mom" is, according to Wikipedia it is this:
A single parent (or solo parent) is a parent, not living with a spouse or partner, who has most of the day-to-day responsibilities in raising the child or children. A single parent is usually considered the primary caregiver, meaning the parent the children have residency with the majority of the time.[1] If the parents are separated or divorced, children live with their custodial parent and have visitation or secondary residence with their noncustodial parent.[2] In western society in general, following separation, a child will end up with the primary caregiver, usually the mother, and a secondary caregiver, usually the father.[3]
That is most *definitely* me. I have been very open about where we live, who is helping us - and my gratitude for it. I have never tried to paint some dire picture..... however, when *we* had sex (and yes, "Mr. Leykis", my ex-husband mounted up on that lard ass of mine and got me pregnant.... not ONCE but TWICE. This might be news you need to sit down for...... just sayin') - and then I got fatter.... mostly because babies have to do that thing we call "gain weight" and "grow"..... anyhow - *we* were supposed to do this *together* in one home... not separately in two homes.
Fat or not.... I'm allowed to be a bit sad and annoyed by that.
I can sure as sh*t assure you, "Mr. Leykis", that if *I* had been the one to leave and only saw my kids for a few hours a week... well - you'd be the FIRST ONE IN LINE to refer to him as a "Single Dad". And by all means... so you should.
We won't get into the minutia of who wakes them up everyday, feeds them, clothes them, educates them, works to her own money, entertains them, feeds them some more (did you know these little bastards eat *at least* three times a day.... and no - you CAN'T always just pull through someplace to get them food? I have to actually cook and sh*t....?) - and then bathe them and put them to bed.
Alone.
On my own.
Singularly.
THAT is a Single Mom, "Mr. Leykis".
just sayin'.
Now. About me. Let's chat, shall we?
First and foremost, you should know that your own personal brand of bullying is .... wrong.
And honestly.... it just makes me want to give you a nice big, fatty hug.
I feel sorry for you.
My life is full of people of all sizes and races and genders.... and I'm blessed.
I'm well aware of what I look like.... or rather - *looked* like: I'm 56 pounds lighter now "Mr. Leykis" and working hard *every* single day to be smaller..... but that's for *me* - that's not for you and all the other Internet Troll's who have had something awful to say about me.
That choice.... that's for me - and it's requiring hard-work and discipline and sweat... and I'm doing it. :)
("Mr. Leykis".... are you picturing me all sweaty now.....? Be careful, I don't want to stroke out from the thought of it.)
Here's why I'm sad for you "Mr. Leykis"...... you see and say many, many things about the world and the people in it... but you don't see their value, and I cannot imagine a life where I don't see the value in the people around me.
I can't imagine going through my life judging people on their looks..... I could have missed out on so much and I'm going to go out on a limb and say that you probably have missed out on plenty.
Perhaps that's why you're so angry and bitter..... and mean.
When someone seeks to make other people suffer with their words, that's only because they have suffered or *are* suffering on their own. People who live in joy - are joyful. People who live in hate.... are hate.
Newsflash "Mr. Leykis": this fat ass is never gonna f*ck hate. So. You're good to go there, sir.
I am many things..... I have *done* many things.... and none of them have been because of my "size" or abundance of it. My marriage fell apart for a good many reasons... I wish it were as simple as a 'weight' issue, I truly do.
Whatever I look like... my *actions* have always been good... my marriage fell apart because we had a myriad of issue's that were never properly dealt with. We lacked the ability to communicate with each other. We moved on from problems and didn't actually deal with them... eventually - it all washed over us and washed us away. Fair enough.
I may have gotten fat.... and yes, I agree with you that that might have made me less sexually desirable to my husband - however, I could have lost weight if that was *truly* our only issue.... sadly: it wasn't.
You, however, seem to have some anger management issue's (probably stemming from that hate thing I mentioned above....) and while you maintain that no man would want to be married to me because I was a "lard ass".... here's the thing, I looked online and I didn't see ONE SINGLE support group for Men Who Used To Be Married To Fat Asses.
I did see, however, a whole sh*t ton of Domestic Abuse support groups....
According to Wickipedia, if this *is* the real Mr. Leykis (which I kind of doubt) then your fourth wife may have needed to attend one:
His fourth wife, Susan Drew Leykis, who first met Leykis at a Los Angeles Kings game,[2] filed a police report against him while they were married and living in Boston in 1993. On December 22 of that year, she alleged that Leykis assaulted and threatened to kill her during a fight after they returned home from a radio station Christmas party. He was subsequently charged with "felony assault and battery and threatening to commit a crime"; a police officer found bruises and scratches on the woman.[8] In March 1994, Leykis was sentenced to a year of probation and ordered to attend a domestic violence class. He completed both, and the charges were dropped, although Leykis did not admit guilt as part of the agreement. The couple have since divorced.[8]
Whatever I look like, I *value* the people in my life enough not to threaten them with physical violence. While I may have, indeed, needed a Hostess Donut Intervention... that didn't involve getting arrested and going to court.
The difference between you and I, "Mr. Leykis".... is that I do not pass judgement on you. I assume that relations between a husband and wife are often complicated... especially after a work holiday party - people can say things in the heat of an argument they might not actually mean... but they can't take back.
Furthermore, I took the time to read the rest of your personal story and found this:
In August 2004, Leykis was attacked outside a Seattle bar and all-night diner, The 5 Point Cafe. In the assault, he was kicked in the face and knocked down to the ground, causing him to require 17 stitches over one eye, and leaving him with scratches and bruises on his knees. The assailant reportedly had an accomplice who accused Leykis of calling him a name and hanging up on him when he called the show. The suspects left by taxi prior to police arriving on scene and were jailed. Tom refused to prosecute due to the distance and, he felt as having a few days in jail was enough.[70
This shows me that you have a conscience. That you were kind enough not to pursue charges against these men because you must have realized your roll in making someone else that angry? Whatever your reasons - it shows me that you were thinking about someone other than yourself when you made that choice not to press charges.
While I can't do anything about my face - that you find so "unattractive" - I am doing something positive and active about my weight because it is something I wish to change about myself.... I hope that one day you will take the time to do something about the hate you seem to carry.
You say you are happy for my ex.... and you know what?
I am, too.
I'm also happy for me... because not only have I lost 56 pounds of depression and disappointment and anger that I stuffed down with donuts and diet Coke's.... but I *also* lost 255 pounds of asshole that was weighing me down..... and let me tell you: that's an amazing feeling.
Whatever you think of "fat".... to be laden down with hate is a much less attractive.
Trust me on this one.
The good news for me is that I go to the gym 5 days a week and follow a solid diet and .... I'm getting smaller every day! woohoo!!!!! :)
The bad news for you... is that you can't work off "hate" at a gym - it's something you'll have to want to change and I'm guessing you won't. That's too bad... I wonder what you could accomplish with your sense of humor and comedic timing if it weren't laced with insults for people you don't know and have never met.
Oh.... and any time you want to talk - let me know.....
***************************Please note that I do not know if the *actual* Mr. Leykis wrote to me... however, it's clearly someone who identifies with how Mr. Leykis does, indeed, objectify, judge and rail against women - especially fat ones. As such, the above could equally apply to Mr. Leykis or a listener.********************
I have listened to Mr. Leykis' show before and the comments above are certainly within the bounds of something Mr. Leykis would say. I have to admit that I have listened to Mr. Leykis' show several times and can appreciate both his sense of humor and his.... unique? perspective on relationships and women in particular. He frequently discuss's a woman's weight or looks as a means to find "value" in her.
In the first place, I want to make sure we operate from the same definition of what a "single Mom" is, according to Wikipedia it is this:
A single parent (or solo parent) is a parent, not living with a spouse or partner, who has most of the day-to-day responsibilities in raising the child or children. A single parent is usually considered the primary caregiver, meaning the parent the children have residency with the majority of the time.[1] If the parents are separated or divorced, children live with their custodial parent and have visitation or secondary residence with their noncustodial parent.[2] In western society in general, following separation, a child will end up with the primary caregiver, usually the mother, and a secondary caregiver, usually the father.[3]
That is most *definitely* me. I have been very open about where we live, who is helping us - and my gratitude for it. I have never tried to paint some dire picture..... however, when *we* had sex (and yes, "Mr. Leykis", my ex-husband mounted up on that lard ass of mine and got me pregnant.... not ONCE but TWICE. This might be news you need to sit down for...... just sayin') - and then I got fatter.... mostly because babies have to do that thing we call "gain weight" and "grow"..... anyhow - *we* were supposed to do this *together* in one home... not separately in two homes.
Fat or not.... I'm allowed to be a bit sad and annoyed by that.
I can sure as sh*t assure you, "Mr. Leykis", that if *I* had been the one to leave and only saw my kids for a few hours a week... well - you'd be the FIRST ONE IN LINE to refer to him as a "Single Dad". And by all means... so you should.
We won't get into the minutia of who wakes them up everyday, feeds them, clothes them, educates them, works to her own money, entertains them, feeds them some more (did you know these little bastards eat *at least* three times a day.... and no - you CAN'T always just pull through someplace to get them food? I have to actually cook and sh*t....?) - and then bathe them and put them to bed.
Alone.
On my own.
Singularly.
THAT is a Single Mom, "Mr. Leykis".
just sayin'.
Now. About me. Let's chat, shall we?
First and foremost, you should know that your own personal brand of bullying is .... wrong.
And honestly.... it just makes me want to give you a nice big, fatty hug.
I feel sorry for you.
My life is full of people of all sizes and races and genders.... and I'm blessed.
I'm well aware of what I look like.... or rather - *looked* like: I'm 56 pounds lighter now "Mr. Leykis" and working hard *every* single day to be smaller..... but that's for *me* - that's not for you and all the other Internet Troll's who have had something awful to say about me.
That choice.... that's for me - and it's requiring hard-work and discipline and sweat... and I'm doing it. :)
("Mr. Leykis".... are you picturing me all sweaty now.....? Be careful, I don't want to stroke out from the thought of it.)
Here's why I'm sad for you "Mr. Leykis"...... you see and say many, many things about the world and the people in it... but you don't see their value, and I cannot imagine a life where I don't see the value in the people around me.
I can't imagine going through my life judging people on their looks..... I could have missed out on so much and I'm going to go out on a limb and say that you probably have missed out on plenty.
Perhaps that's why you're so angry and bitter..... and mean.
When someone seeks to make other people suffer with their words, that's only because they have suffered or *are* suffering on their own. People who live in joy - are joyful. People who live in hate.... are hate.
Newsflash "Mr. Leykis": this fat ass is never gonna f*ck hate. So. You're good to go there, sir.
I am many things..... I have *done* many things.... and none of them have been because of my "size" or abundance of it. My marriage fell apart for a good many reasons... I wish it were as simple as a 'weight' issue, I truly do.
Whatever I look like... my *actions* have always been good... my marriage fell apart because we had a myriad of issue's that were never properly dealt with. We lacked the ability to communicate with each other. We moved on from problems and didn't actually deal with them... eventually - it all washed over us and washed us away. Fair enough.
I may have gotten fat.... and yes, I agree with you that that might have made me less sexually desirable to my husband - however, I could have lost weight if that was *truly* our only issue.... sadly: it wasn't.
You, however, seem to have some anger management issue's (probably stemming from that hate thing I mentioned above....) and while you maintain that no man would want to be married to me because I was a "lard ass".... here's the thing, I looked online and I didn't see ONE SINGLE support group for Men Who Used To Be Married To Fat Asses.
I did see, however, a whole sh*t ton of Domestic Abuse support groups....
According to Wickipedia, if this *is* the real Mr. Leykis (which I kind of doubt) then your fourth wife may have needed to attend one:
His fourth wife, Susan Drew Leykis, who first met Leykis at a Los Angeles Kings game,[2] filed a police report against him while they were married and living in Boston in 1993. On December 22 of that year, she alleged that Leykis assaulted and threatened to kill her during a fight after they returned home from a radio station Christmas party. He was subsequently charged with "felony assault and battery and threatening to commit a crime"; a police officer found bruises and scratches on the woman.[8] In March 1994, Leykis was sentenced to a year of probation and ordered to attend a domestic violence class. He completed both, and the charges were dropped, although Leykis did not admit guilt as part of the agreement. The couple have since divorced.[8]
Whatever I look like, I *value* the people in my life enough not to threaten them with physical violence. While I may have, indeed, needed a Hostess Donut Intervention... that didn't involve getting arrested and going to court.
The difference between you and I, "Mr. Leykis".... is that I do not pass judgement on you. I assume that relations between a husband and wife are often complicated... especially after a work holiday party - people can say things in the heat of an argument they might not actually mean... but they can't take back.
Furthermore, I took the time to read the rest of your personal story and found this:
In August 2004, Leykis was attacked outside a Seattle bar and all-night diner, The 5 Point Cafe. In the assault, he was kicked in the face and knocked down to the ground, causing him to require 17 stitches over one eye, and leaving him with scratches and bruises on his knees. The assailant reportedly had an accomplice who accused Leykis of calling him a name and hanging up on him when he called the show. The suspects left by taxi prior to police arriving on scene and were jailed. Tom refused to prosecute due to the distance and, he felt as having a few days in jail was enough.[70
This shows me that you have a conscience. That you were kind enough not to pursue charges against these men because you must have realized your roll in making someone else that angry? Whatever your reasons - it shows me that you were thinking about someone other than yourself when you made that choice not to press charges.
While I can't do anything about my face - that you find so "unattractive" - I am doing something positive and active about my weight because it is something I wish to change about myself.... I hope that one day you will take the time to do something about the hate you seem to carry.
You say you are happy for my ex.... and you know what?
I am, too.
I'm also happy for me... because not only have I lost 56 pounds of depression and disappointment and anger that I stuffed down with donuts and diet Coke's.... but I *also* lost 255 pounds of asshole that was weighing me down..... and let me tell you: that's an amazing feeling.
Whatever you think of "fat".... to be laden down with hate is a much less attractive.
Trust me on this one.
The good news for me is that I go to the gym 5 days a week and follow a solid diet and .... I'm getting smaller every day! woohoo!!!!! :)
The bad news for you... is that you can't work off "hate" at a gym - it's something you'll have to want to change and I'm guessing you won't. That's too bad... I wonder what you could accomplish with your sense of humor and comedic timing if it weren't laced with insults for people you don't know and have never met.
Oh.... and any time you want to talk - let me know.....
***************************Please note that I do not know if the *actual* Mr. Leykis wrote to me... however, it's clearly someone who identifies with how Mr. Leykis does, indeed, objectify, judge and rail against women - especially fat ones. As such, the above could equally apply to Mr. Leykis or a listener.********************
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