Mary Cooper said:
Ms. Yoga is brave. After being ridiculed on this site so often and she is willing to be civil and has taken an interest in the kids despite your many comments to the contrary. You were wrong and a bit unfair. You owe her an apology.
Hmm...... well, to be blunt... it's a little bit "less willing" and more me "laying down the law" and not giving them much of an option.....
And.... I'm sorry - I'm just ever so slightly confused..... the "children" aren't like a hobby. They aren't something she get to CHOOSE to have an "interest" in. That's like... ass backwards. They were here FIRST. They were part of their Father's life while she was still in freakin' high school.... lolololol
Yoga Girl knew me. She knew who I was. She was facebook friends with my husband - she could see our *daily* family life.... and she had an affair with him anyway.
So, to be totally *fair* - one should never poke a bear unless they are willing to fight for their life.
She poked this bear.
Done.
However.... what *could* have remained between the three of us .... became a National issue with *we* made our sign to sell our house.... and - I *could* have thrown her to the wolves... but I did not.
Several journalists knew who she was - they found her name. In fact, several of my *blog readers* figured out who she was.... crafty, smart people that they were.... and I protected her identity. I didn't have to do that.
But I did.
More to the point... *I* never actually sought to harm her at all. Honestly.
I've certainly had a few things to say about her.... however - while I might have *said* mean things... she *did* a mean thing to someone she didn't know. She *did* a harmful thing to my children. Does she not have to own that?
And.... since she *sought* to get my husband to be hers.... does she not realize - and do *you* not realize that the children are a bit of a 'package deal'? You understand that I can like put them back.... right? Once those little buggers were here... they were kind of here to stay.
I would assume that any woman who is making out with a married man in a parked car understands that if he leaves his wife - he doesn't get to leave his entire life behind.... he has to take part of it with him. The biggest part being the children.
Now. What you're missing, Ms. Cooper... is that I do believe that I was well with-in my womanly rights to voice my opinions about the woman who sucked the bottom right out of my marriage. I'm certainly not going to apologize for it.
Just like I don't expect her to apologize for what she did.
I have accepted what she did. I have chosen to move past it.
I have chosen to accept her in the role she is now in.
It's a f*ck ton more than many women would do.... *and* - I'm doing it without prejudice. I'm doing it with open arms and my full support for her in her role not only in dealing with me on a co-parent level... but also with the children.... and you know what - we're not even to our One Year Anniversary, yet.
So... with all due respect Ms. Cooper... I think I've been pretty f*cking nice. lolololol
Also, please not that I was writing *openly* about Yoga Girl doing the right thing.... I could be making up lies or spreading gossip or just not mentioning it.... but instead, I'm giving credit where it's due. Again.... not a whole lot of people in my shoes would do that.
But here I am: doing it.
Also..... Yoga Girl is.... a lot like me. She's mouthy and brash and funny and very, very opinionated While she didn't have a blog with a huge readership.... she's made her opinions about me known - trust that. lol
And so she should... I have no issue with that.
Going forward however... everyone has to work towards a positive ending - and functional relationships. If she wants to have a life with El Capitan - she's going to *have* to accept his children not by choice... but because she doesn't *have* a choice. lol They are already here.
And..... in spite of what I may or may not have written about my own personal feelings and emotions.... our *kids* are ready and willing to have a functional relationship with Yoga Girl BECAUSE OF ME. El Capitan has refused to acknowledge her existence with them..... but when they asked me - I could have said - "she's a husband stealing wh*re....." But I did not.
Not even knowing if she woudl be around in 12 months... I knew that the best plan of action from the start with not sandbagging her with the kids so that she could have a relationship with them down the road.
Me... *I* did that.
Again.... I am entitled to my opinion - and free to write it on a blog where NO ONE prints her name... so long as where it really matters - I do the right thing by her. Which I have.
And now..... she's doing the right thing by the children.
Good for her.
I hope she proves many people wrong.
The kids would love that. :)
Ms. Yoga is brave. After being ridiculed on this site so often and she is willing to be civil and has taken an interest in the kids despite your many comments to the contrary. You were wrong and a bit unfair. You owe her an apology.
Hmm...... well, to be blunt... it's a little bit "less willing" and more me "laying down the law" and not giving them much of an option.....
And.... I'm sorry - I'm just ever so slightly confused..... the "children" aren't like a hobby. They aren't something she get to CHOOSE to have an "interest" in. That's like... ass backwards. They were here FIRST. They were part of their Father's life while she was still in freakin' high school.... lolololol
Yoga Girl knew me. She knew who I was. She was facebook friends with my husband - she could see our *daily* family life.... and she had an affair with him anyway.
So, to be totally *fair* - one should never poke a bear unless they are willing to fight for their life.
She poked this bear.
Done.
However.... what *could* have remained between the three of us .... became a National issue with *we* made our sign to sell our house.... and - I *could* have thrown her to the wolves... but I did not.
Several journalists knew who she was - they found her name. In fact, several of my *blog readers* figured out who she was.... crafty, smart people that they were.... and I protected her identity. I didn't have to do that.
But I did.
More to the point... *I* never actually sought to harm her at all. Honestly.
I've certainly had a few things to say about her.... however - while I might have *said* mean things... she *did* a mean thing to someone she didn't know. She *did* a harmful thing to my children. Does she not have to own that?
And.... since she *sought* to get my husband to be hers.... does she not realize - and do *you* not realize that the children are a bit of a 'package deal'? You understand that I can like put them back.... right? Once those little buggers were here... they were kind of here to stay.
I would assume that any woman who is making out with a married man in a parked car understands that if he leaves his wife - he doesn't get to leave his entire life behind.... he has to take part of it with him. The biggest part being the children.
Now. What you're missing, Ms. Cooper... is that I do believe that I was well with-in my womanly rights to voice my opinions about the woman who sucked the bottom right out of my marriage. I'm certainly not going to apologize for it.
Just like I don't expect her to apologize for what she did.
I have accepted what she did. I have chosen to move past it.
I have chosen to accept her in the role she is now in.
It's a f*ck ton more than many women would do.... *and* - I'm doing it without prejudice. I'm doing it with open arms and my full support for her in her role not only in dealing with me on a co-parent level... but also with the children.... and you know what - we're not even to our One Year Anniversary, yet.
So... with all due respect Ms. Cooper... I think I've been pretty f*cking nice. lolololol
Also, please not that I was writing *openly* about Yoga Girl doing the right thing.... I could be making up lies or spreading gossip or just not mentioning it.... but instead, I'm giving credit where it's due. Again.... not a whole lot of people in my shoes would do that.
But here I am: doing it.
Also..... Yoga Girl is.... a lot like me. She's mouthy and brash and funny and very, very opinionated While she didn't have a blog with a huge readership.... she's made her opinions about me known - trust that. lol
And so she should... I have no issue with that.
Going forward however... everyone has to work towards a positive ending - and functional relationships. If she wants to have a life with El Capitan - she's going to *have* to accept his children not by choice... but because she doesn't *have* a choice. lol They are already here.
And..... in spite of what I may or may not have written about my own personal feelings and emotions.... our *kids* are ready and willing to have a functional relationship with Yoga Girl BECAUSE OF ME. El Capitan has refused to acknowledge her existence with them..... but when they asked me - I could have said - "she's a husband stealing wh*re....." But I did not.
Not even knowing if she woudl be around in 12 months... I knew that the best plan of action from the start with not sandbagging her with the kids so that she could have a relationship with them down the road.
Me... *I* did that.
Again.... I am entitled to my opinion - and free to write it on a blog where NO ONE prints her name... so long as where it really matters - I do the right thing by her. Which I have.
And now..... she's doing the right thing by the children.
Good for her.
I hope she proves many people wrong.
The kids would love that. :)
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