The winds of change are blowing..... can you feel them?
In the first place.... the date and time and place are set for the first meeting between El Capitan, Yoga Girl and myself to set out a parenting plan and talk about the kids.
See.... told ya'. :)
I've printed off a few things for her to read - in regards to the parenting style we've used since the kids were born. I figure she won't get everything right all the time....but - what 'parent' does? I can't hold to some crazy standard in dealing with the children - but it's unfair to hold her to any kind of standard unless I give her some tools to help.
It would be good for the children if this worked out well.... The Girl - knowing that The Boy has met Yoga Girl- is now asking when she get's to have a "play date" with Yoga Girl.
See.... it's time.
It's time for them to experience seeing their Dad with another woman.... no doubt this will be hard - but it's the reality of our situation and one that both Yoga Girl and the kids have been hidden from ... and it's not fair to either of them.
So. I'm going to chalk that up to a serious accomplishment on the part of all adult involved, give myself a high-five and consider it a super, teeny-tiny win in the One Happy Family From Two Homes column.
In other news.... I did, in fact, go on a date today. There have been a few coffee's and what not... but this was a bonafide meal - with beer and everything.... you know - like real live adults. lol
I learned a long time ago not to take anything for granted, or expect too much from any particular event or person.... lunch is lunch.... it's not a wedding proposal. :) Having said that - it was a very nice lunch with someone who is kind and compassionate and has a solid sense of humor.
In fact.... here's a funny story..... shortly after we met I gave this person my number.... or at least I thought I did.
I waited for them to call or text... .and they didn't.... and didn't. Strange.
Then I got a message and it said.... "Hey - I texted you and you said you don't have an unlimited texting plan? and... then you asked me about 'barebacking'.... I think we're looking for different things....."
Um. WTF is 'barebacking'?
Ok... totally confused I looked at the number they were texting and.... it *wasn't* mine!!!!!!
The phone number I had give this person as ONE F*CKING DIGIT off mine.
Turns out.... it was actually the phone number for a hooker from a 'barebacking' website.
(feel free to google what the hell that means.....)
So. After I died of embarrassment like 10000000000 times..... I sheepishly replied to give them my REAL phone number and apologize for my being an ass .......
Remember the whole late night iming debacle with Coffee Guy.... yeah. It's like that only a zillion times worse. Good gawd....I gave someone a hookers numbers instead of mine.
Clearly these new fangled dating technologies are well and truly above my head.
Anyhow.... luckily enough... they thought the whole thing was hilarious.... and the Textcapade began.... though I suspect for as long as we're friends I will jokes about 'barebacking'.... like: forever.
I can't really blame them.... lolololol
That's one thing I really like about this person - they have a great sense of humor. Aside from that - they can take in a whole situation (like having texted a hooked instead of me) and see the innocent mistake, the hilarity of the situation and then still have an interest in talking to me.... I think that's pretty lucky to have found.
We are different in some ways... but similar in others - they value family and friends and are opinionated and outspoken.... sound like anyone we know?
They like to camp though..... but then again, I don't mind getting dirty for the right person. lol
I think that's kind of the cool thing about dating again is going out and trying new things and taking new adventures...... at the very least, I may not find love, but I'll be a more well round
(But there will be no barebacking ever. ever. ever. period.)
Mother, "scorned wife", photographer, designer, potential blog writer and recent guest on The View.... life's been pretty crazy as of late - crazybeautiful that is!
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