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6/24/2013

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"But please remember in the same way that you dont like to be judged dont judge others. Because that worker man had a different opinion doesnt mean hes a bad person or that hes wrong, in the same way that you have a different opinion. I think thats where the problem lies. People now a days need to get off their "your doing me wrong horse" and get on the we are all people band wagon. You know what this world needs more of? Grace on tap. Thats right, grace to accept people, help people, nurture people, we need compassion we need to stop looking at color, sexuality, and most of all pointing fingers and name calling those that think differently. Everyone has struggles and not everyone is going to get along, we are all different, we all think different, feel different, love different and need different. But if you want to get somewhere with me dont tell me Im wrong for my beliefs, dont assume because I think same sex marriage in a biblical sense is wrong that I would raise my kids to hate homosexuality and that having a gay kid I would teach them to hate themselves. Dont assume that because I dont like seeing people making out in public that I am closeminded. How judgemental of you to make those statements. You want acceptance people need to learn to show acceptance. Please remember that just because people might not believe in same sex marriage doesnt mean that they dont believe in equal rights for all. I dont have to share your beliefs, this is America but please dont condemn me for having different opinions of you. I hope by saying this I havent offended you, I just wanted to explain a few feelings. I think your amazing, I think you teach your kids the very lessons that I hope to instill in my children. I will continue to read your blog and journey your journey with you. Cant wait to see what direction your life takes."


Blog comment from yesterdays blog.....
Hmm..... so I re-read yesterdays blog:  and I'm confused.

Was the man who stood mere *feet* from me and said alllll kinds of nasty things about "those gay's" - was he showing me grace?  Was he showing anyone grace......?  Don't you think it's a bit ballsy to stand in *any* kitchen in this country - and spout stuff like that?
I kind of think it is.

I actually didn't say that *anyone* was wrong in their beliefs - and in fact, I *welcomed* the Mormon's kid offer of prayer.... and..... I said I hope that THAT MAN didn't have a gay kid in his house - I don't assume that everyone who "disagrees" with gay marriage spouts hate in their home.

More to the point... I didn't ask anyone to "accept" me - I only ask that I not be discriminated against.
There is a significant difference there, don't you think?

I'm not going to apologize for calling the man a tool, or a jackass or a moron... because he WAS one.   This country *is* a melting pot... and so are many families:  anyone who is dumb enough to stand in a strangers home and make derogatory comments about a persons sexuality or race *is* a dumbass because it's stupid to assume that family isn't diverse enough to have "one of those" type people in it.
Right?

I never said he was a "bad" person.... if *you* read that and thought he was a bad person, then that's your opinion.... I said he was a jackass:  and he is.

He didn't say, "By golly, that display of affection between two people is out of order in a public space!"

He said...."these queer women were making out and it was gross and I had to explain it to my kids."
That's not grace.
That's not tolerance.
And.... last time I checked, that sure as sh*t wasn't acceptance.

I was fuuuuuulllll of grace, so much so- my lips were sealed with it.  

And, while I might be single right now..... I'll be more than happy to walk around downtown PDX making out with my perfect butch girl.  Watch me.  Take notes:  because *that's* what happiness looks like - and frankly, that's all that man "needed" to explain to his kids. 

Man...... this is one of those days that life and everything my life has become.... starts to wear on me.
Sigh.

The irony, is that (speaking in stereotypes) - it would have been a *thousand* times easier for me to find a guy, marry him, get his medical benefits, his social security.... sit back while he pays my bills, I could continue the studio, we could raise my kids and *be* a happy family.....
That would have been easier.

In stead, I'm going to spend the rest of my life fighting to be recognized as a whole person - either by my own government.... or some dude standing in my kitchen.  Good times..... good times.
Well.... it's still easier than fighting with myself.

I'm sorry..... I'm tired tonight.
I'm tired and I'm worn down.
Night.


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Kim
6/24/2013 11:54:31 pm

You know I want to make sure you know someone (ME) has respect for you and your beliefs and what you want to stand for now that youa re being true to you.

My sister being gay has made our whole family see things in a different light. She has a beautiful daughter, yes her and her partner bought sperm and I have the smartest neice around! Just Saying...

What I think you need to remember is that not everyone will approve of you or me or joe blow down the road. You see you are more aware of gay slander because you are "out" you can sit there and shake your head no but Elle you are.

You see people don't approve of me, why...well I am outspoken I take no shit and will stand here and fight for what I believe in I am not afraid to stand up for the people I care about. I don't care, approve or don't approve I am who I am.

Just like you...what does it matter if he approves, some dude you don't even know WTF why be so upset over someone like that? Seriously, if I flipped everytime someone said something about gay being wrong or whatever I would never have peace. I will stand up for my sister and her parnter LOUD and PROUD but i am not going to freak over every stranger who doesn't like it. You are just more aware now...I am happy for you that you are being the real you but you cannot force the world to like it or approve. I feel that everyone will meet their maker and be judged then and I am pretty sure the good lord really doesn't care if you love a man or a woman as long as there is love. And if he does care then there will be tons of friends I will be joinging in HELL.

I guess those are my feeling about things I just know that I don't care if you (not just you but people) are gay-straight-bi-sexual-transgender- find someone that makes you happy and you make happy but remember "If you are not happy with yourself or cannot make yourself happy then being with someone won't change that" Come to terms with who you are as a person/freind/parent/sister/brother/partner and then find someone who fits you like a puzzle piece.
Just my thoughts and Elle stand up tall and know you have people cheering you on the side lines praying you find all the happiness you deserve.

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Alex
6/25/2013 03:25:29 am

On people who don't judge homosexuality but cite that they can't support gay marriage because it does not hold with their biblical beliefs;

No one is asking any church to incorporate gay marriage into their belief system.

They are asking the government to recognize it and demand that it be treated equally to heterosexual marriages and no longer discriminate because others are "uncomfortable with it biblically".

There are many who claim this is not a secular nation, freedom of religion does not mean freedom from religion, blah blah blah, but the constitution is pretty clear; there is to be a separation of church and state.

I have my religious marriage that was officiated by a minister, and I have my state marriage that involved changing my legal status and legally tied me to another person.

What people are asking for is the same rights to state marriage as heterosexual couples have.

So many of those who complain that their views are being disrespected can stop complaining. No one is asking you to disrespect your religion. You are only being asked to keep it in the arena of private citizens, and out of the government.

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