"I have cement boots and a get-away car.... just let know."
Obviously - she wasn't being serious. Obviously *no one* is going to be putting anyone in 'cement boots' - but ... there's something wonderful about a friend who would do anything for you: even if it's just a funny text to make you smile.
Last week J had to take her husband somewhere and I watched the kids for a few hours... upon her return, I was summarily lectured about how I need to "get back out there" and "start dating". That is easier said than done when *all* of your friends are (mostly) happily married and they're all a bit short on 'single friends' - so J's master plan is that I should set up an account on a dating site.
At first I refused. Well... refused a lot. I mean - honestly.... how the *hell* would I "internet" date *anyone*? If I put up a picture, then the know who I am.... they'll probably assume that I'm some crazy ex-wife who 'screwed' over her ex... blah blah blah.
I'm guessing that dating cite's aren't short on scorned and bitter divorced men who aren't keen on women they predetermine are 'bitches'. In some circles... I'm seen as a bitch.
So.... then even if I *don't* put up a picture on the site - I kind of have to admit who I am eventually anyway.... and that's a little bit awkward..... or at least I think it is.
On top of that - I'm shocked at *how* many of these men - in their very late 30s and early - mid 40s list that they STILL want to have children of their own.....!?!?!?! I'm not trying to judge *anyone* - but if you're a man, and you've been mostly single - NOT had any kids - and you're around 40 - having children would be a MASSIVE change... and frankly, one I would question...
I mean - I'm a pretty good Mom... but I'm pretty damn tired and I'm only 37 and my kids aren't newborns... so if I *just* started dating someone and then you get married, get pregnant - that's AT LEAST 18 more month away and *then* you have a newborn......?
That's alot of pressure on a marriage- and two older, very tired parents to a baby.
I know that works for some people... but I'm guessing it's really hard to make it work for most people.
Oh - and it's not just *one* guy... but MOST of the men. Which.... I mean - I think we all know that men (generally speaking) can be rather ... selfish and needy. Especially if they are sick, or pulled a muscle playing basketball. They require alot of our collective attention and care.... I can't imagine how a new marriage after years of living alone - and adding a child to the mix... does anyone else think that's a bit nuts?
And.... of course *all* of these men are looking for "real women" who have a sense of humor, want to go backpacking, hiking, biking, and allll with someone who is 'athletic - slender- curvy- toned'. But are *they* athletic and muscular? Not usually.... not usually.
I like the outdoors - I love day trips.... LOVE them. Living in the Northwest, there are no shortage of places to go that are just stunning. I like the coast, I like mild hiking (but if you need those fancy 'walking stick' things to keep your footing on the path... then: no), I mean, if I have to sweat my ass off just to sit and appreciate the scenery... well, I'm guessing I could enjoy the same scenery lower down with half the sweat and just as nice of a time.