Donate Me......

9/25/2012

Hmm...... so today is filled with all kinds of mixed responses... the usual - you're a fat ass and deserve to be shot.... and then the ever so kind - you're doing a good job and keep going....

More importantly, there have been nearly a dozen requests for a 'donation' button to be added to the site. I was asked about this before and I have VERY mixed feelings..... I think it's selfish and rude to have a 'donation' button. I think it's not the right thing to do.

However, as several emails have mentioned, there are people who identify with my journey and want to do something nice - so why not let them? I'm touched and grateful JUST that people FEEL like they want to 'donate' something to my life - that's awesome all in itself. It really require's nothing more than that.

Honestly.

At the same time, there's no harm in putting a button on the site - so I'm putting it here. Feel free to donate, I can use that money towards things for the kids and school fees and whatnot. I WILL NOT be upset at all if no one donate's a single dime... in fact, I can think of thousands of people and dozens more worthy organizations who could use donations...... but as my friend has pointed out to me - it's not for me to decide how people should spent *their* money. lol

******* THE DONATE BUTTON HAS BEEN REMOVED SO AS NOT TO CONFUSE ANYONE WITH THE MOMS CLUB FUNDRAISER FOR THE SANDY HOOK MEMORIAL PLAYGROUND********** :)

11 Comments

annonymous

9/25/2012 06:49:14 am

I can not believe you put a donate button. You use your family to make money. That is low!!! Make magnets and now a flipping donaye button? You act so innocent about everything but ypu seem absolutly crazy!!!! I wish I lived in your state as I would love to sit down with you and let you know just how crazy you are. How can you not see what your doing and how you are doing things is wrong. You just want attention in anyway possible. Why dont you go be a mentour to women not bellyache about this for everyone to read and see. Someone who wants to help other people with out looking for a comment from strangers. Your looking gor a personal gain. Writing that people have asked to donate why dont you tell them to donate it to a womans chairty or something? Like you said there are others who need to WAY more then you do.

Elle Zober link

9/25/2012 08:39:57 am

Dear Annonymous:

I totally agree with you on several points, but I want to make one thing clear.

I HAVE NOT USED this situation OR MY FAMILY for financial gain. I made the magnets as a joke because my friends had friends who lived out of town who wanted to order them.... I only ordered 50 magnets to start with - and thought I would be giving most of those away for free to my local friends - I wasn't expecting sooooo many people to buy them! When they happened I made sure that people knew I would use that magnet money for things FOR THE KIDS. I haven't used that money for me at all - only for the kids.

Second, why the hell would I 'mentor' women? (and it's mentor, btw) - I'm nobody - and I'm pretty clear about that in the blog. VERY clear, actually.

Third, I HAVE NOT added ads to the blog. I average nearly 1,000 readers a day from all over the world - and if I *wanted* to use this situation for financial gain adding ads would have been the FIRST place to do it. I did not.

Fourth, there are many people - women who have walked in my shoes and came out very successful, men who did this to their family who want to help me now - and - probably *most* touching to me are the grown children who lived through this with their own single parent and want to send a little something to my children.

I am *most inspired* by that.

I *do not* think I am special or more entitled to *anything* than anyone else. If you took the time to get to know me - or read my blog, then you would already know that.

Finally.... I *do* agree with you about adding the button - that there are way more deserving people out there ... however, there *are* people who wish to donate and they coudln't see anything wrong with having it there.... so it's a dammed if I do and dammed if I don't situation.

In the end - as one blogger wrote me to via email - LOTS of people who blog do it for money. Either they do ads - OR they frequently have "donate" buttons on their blogs. I never set out to "be a blogger" of any kind - or an actress, or a 'reality' star of any kind - so this is all new territory for me. Based on the advice of the blogger and the request of several people, I added a donate button.

YOU, (spelled you, not ypu) - do not have to donate. You also do no have to read my blog or be interested in my story at all. You have those choices available to you. :)

Thank you for your words though - I appreciate your honesty and I'm sure you're not the only one who feels this way... hence my hesitation to add a 'donate' button the in first place.

Elle

Nancy Maurice

9/25/2012 02:25:09 pm

Just ignore her Elle. You are ok with everything you do. You are a blessing to God. Only God judges and he loves you some people need to find better things to do with their time then judging you. You are loved!!! :)

Jim Barker link

9/25/2012 10:57:08 am

Yet another "anonymous" troll....

Thanya Mercado link

9/25/2012 07:07:40 am

I came across your site and I felt the need to post a link to it on my Facebook account and am encouraging my 400 or so friends to do the same , this was before you had a donate button I was sending them to buy magnets =) great idea to put that button in. I wanted to tell you that you are not alone , and it takes a lot of courage to do what you have done. I was going to be married once very recently , even have the dress hanging on my door still , and a ring to someone who I now see was never really meant for me. He ended up marrying my sisters bestfriend four months after our break up ( love knows no mourning period I guess lol ) and it has been tough to say the least but as my four year old son Nikolas tells me .. We are awesome and awesome things are always gonna happen to us. Keep your head up and good luck ! you sound like a awesome lady with a gift for blogging I will tune in to see how many " amazing " things happen to you and your familiy .

Jenny-Jen-Jen

9/25/2012 07:11:19 am

I'm glad you FINALLY added the donate button! If for nothing else than to let people who genuinely want to help, help. Some people have more money than time, and some have more time than money. I'm of you for being so strong in this process. It's been done before where "donate buttons" go viral and people donate $1 at a time. If it makes it easier for you to get by during this time of transition, the. So be it. Hold your head high my friend, you have a heart of gold and this my friend is where the Karma is coming back to you. Love you.
Ps. If someone has a problem with this donate button, just disregard it, no need to express your ill will or mean and nasty comments to a SINGLE mom who's trying to do right by her kids. Please just kindly ignore :) thank you. Jenny-Jen-Jen

Judy Wright

9/25/2012 07:29:51 am

I watched your story on the Jeff Probst show today and thought you looked wonderful. Your "'up" personality was very evident, Jeff seemed impressed. I admire you for being the mom you still are even though your X cheated.

I had been married 45 yrs. when I went through practically the very same thing you did.....that was 3 years ago, and trust me, I still struggle with it. My X gave up his 3 adult children, 7 grandkids, and ME, for a 22 yr. old who is now 28. In my research and tracking of him and his affair, I discovered I didn't know the man I had been married to for 45 yrs. My divorce "settlement" runs out in 2 yrs. and at this point I have no idea what I will do. At the age of 68, my options are limited. I am a strong believer and I know God is in control and He knows what plans He has for me. Sometimes I just wish He would clue me in a little bit! Hang in there, I can't imagine having gone through this with small children!!

Dusty

9/26/2012 05:25:46 am

I have a question? Why would a 22-year-old want to be with a man in his 60s? Is his rich?

Mercy

9/26/2012 12:13:50 am

GREAT, FINALLY!!!!! :D I had been dying to send you a gift card for you to do something with your kids. Thank you for putting that donate button. Ignore the Annonymous people they are bitter. You my dear are AMAZING and please don't say that you are not special... you are VERY special! We all are, even the annonymous because without them we wouldn't have the 'ganas' (the desire, the will) to show them otherwise! If I lived around your area, I would just love to be your client. Don't worry about losing your studio you can still photograph people at the parks at their homes etc.

Aisha

9/26/2012 04:38:35 am

Elle, putting a donation button up is not selfish at all! I bet you any amount of money and you all reading know this is true: if you were in a position that you were having trouble supporting your family you'd do ANYTHING to make ends meet. You might even go out there and sell your body or sell drugs, WHATEVER it took to support your family. And yet, having a donation button is selfish? I think the whole world would much rather see someone post a donation button ON THEIR OWN SITE than stand on a corner selling drugs to YOUR KID. No one is forcing anyone to donate or read her blogs. Remember what your mother said if you don't have anything nice to say don't say it at all? Elle is a courageous, beautiful soul and for her to politely take the time out to correct the false statements posted here is very mature and decent. Not many people would do that. Elle, I truly admire your maturity but I think I would be a total jerkbag to El Captain (of course that wouldn't be fair the the children) so I understand. Five months and 12 days ago my life took a nosedive into a pool of uncertainty, it's amazing how similar our lives played out. I wish I knew to be a nicer person back then like you are during all of this. Kudos to tooting your own horn! :)

Daily Voyeur

9/26/2012 07:17:56 am

Please keep the button on the site.

I check into your life daily. My story is slightly different then yours but the similarities are greater then the differences. I'd like to be able to repay you some day... you have no idea how therapeutic your blogging has been for me.

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