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C'Mon.... Let's Share Some Love

2/13/2013

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Sooooo..... *most* of the time, I am willing to protect the innocent... and even the 'not-so-innocent'.  I don't mind - I really don't..... *I* didn't ask for all this to happen.  I didn't plan for this to happen - I wasn't trying to expose El Capitan so that people will see him and point the finger at him for years to come.....

I haven't sewn a public scarlet letter to Yoga Girls' chest.... again - she *asked* for a lot of things, but - let's be fair:  she didn't ask to be publicly humiliated and while she may (or may not) deserve it.... it isn't the right thing to do.

A few week ago I realized that there was a 'second OTHER' folder on my facebook account.  I clicked on it and over a hundred messages that were sent around the time that the sign went viral.... I answered each and every one - embarrassed that I hadn't done it sooner. 

Oh.... and then there were the two gems above.

These two tools were *dumb* enough to send me such charming words of kindness... with their OWN photos attached and their full names attached!  NEITHER of them is what *I* would consider - handsome.  The first guy proudly wore knee-length jean shorts a mullet to Vegas in the 90s..... how old is he now?!?!?! lololol

The first guy also has a business of his own - I wonder how many women in his area - who EMPLOY HIM and PAY HIM their hard earned money..... happen to look like me?  He's too good to 'f*ck' on 'old nasty bag' - but I bet you he cashes checks from women who look *exactly* like me alllllll the time.
just sayin'.

The second guy - is a younger kid.... but he's nice enough to tag his aunt on hi facebook page... I wonder if she would love to know what a kind and noble soul her nephew is.
sigh.

Everyone is entitled to their opinion - *everyone*.  I have no problem with people saying allllll kinds of nasty and horrible things to me, or about me - really.  I'm a big girl (clearly) and I can take it.  Sometimes though - I'm just kind of done with it all - and....  if these two Darwinian Geniuses were *dumb* enough to send me NASTY messages with their full names and pictures attached to them.... then I have to assume that they don't mind being the MEN they are and standing behind their words.

Right?

For the record, the first guy is *older* than I am.... and I would rather die *alone* having the last time I ever feel a man presence near me be that of the man who was cheating on me - than to let this fat f*ck slop his huge, rotund gut *anywhere* near my 'old and nasty' girl parts.
Period.

I'd sooner take up with a collection of barn animals.... at the very least:  they would surely have better manners.

In the second place.... why on *earth* do we feel this bizarre need to communicate such kindness to begin with......?  Really.  What did either of these men gain by sending me these messages?  Nothing.

And yet they did it anyway.

I'm not sure if this is the 'right' thing to do.... I've struggled with this for a few months.... however, in light of the season:  I just want to share the same 'love' they were so eager to share with me.

Bullies get to be bullies because they hide in secret - they can say whatever they want to people from a place of privacy - and so I had to ask myself why am I continuing to afford them such privacy?

They were man enough to send those messages - is it wrong for me to believe that they wouldn't want the opportunity to stand behind their words?  I should think they do.
In fact, being the strong, handsome, young, un-nasty MEN that they are - I should think they would be eager to stand up for what they believe in and be men of their words.

And I for one.... am allllll too willing to help give them that opportunity.

So.... I hope they get *a lot* of love on this Valentine's Day! 
Muah. xoxoxoxo
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Misty Know-Itall
2/13/2013 04:32:23 pm

oooh that was SUPER fun!!! I love you for posting this. They had it coming for being super douches. Who does that?! Sadly, I doubt what your blog said, or what I said will get through to their small neanderthal brain. People like that just don't care how they effect people. :/

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Jen
2/13/2013 08:07:53 pm

You go!!! It's about time you stop taking shit from people!

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Alex
2/13/2013 09:56:50 pm

Huh. Two guys who clearly have been dumped by every woman they ever asked out, provided they even scored dates in the first place.

They're bitter against women because so few want to sleep with them I'm assuming.

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Christian
2/13/2013 11:52:16 pm

His "your" should have been "you're." Sorry but if he's gonna be mean at least spell it right!!! I am actually completely surprised that someone would say something like that, much less put it in writing!Total douchebags!!! I'm sure their women are fabulous being that they're God's gift to women and all, NOT!!!

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Stephanie
2/13/2013 11:59:30 pm

Elle: I stumbled upon your blog by accident about 3 weeks ago when looking at a news website for a weather update. Needless to say, I am totally hooked on it and hate that I am all caught up now and have to wait for your net posting. I feel like we could be best friends if we ever meet. I am a die hard Team Edward Twilight fan and when I read what you write, I picture myself doing or saying the same exact things. I have also been cheated on, my husband and I did seek counseling and work things out which I am happy about not only for us, but for our two kiddos. I just wanted you to know that I am proud of you and you should be proud of yourself. For everything you have been through, you continue to come out on top. It may not feel that way some days, but you are an amazing person who has been strong for yourself and your kids through this whole mess. I also applaud the fact that you are as nice as you are. As I read things on this blog I sometimes want to yell at you to quit being the nice girl and be the bitch everyone accuses you of being. I would have let the storage go.......screw him, if that stuff was important to him, he would pay it himself! Good for you for all you've done. Just wanted you to know that you are doing a great job!

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DoubleDee
2/14/2013 01:20:35 am

OMG, Elle, that first guy is HILARIOUS. I just checked out his Facebook page. 1979 Trans Am, trips to the Ukraine to meet women, his hero is Dale Earnhardt. But the funniest part of all of all have got to be the timeline photos he posted, all boobs and penises. He is like a SNL caricature. He is so gross!

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Jennifer
2/15/2013 02:43:25 pm

I completely agree!! The first guy Daniel Osssman... what a DB!! He is a total SNL caricature!! Bahahahahaha! Him and his Ukraine mail order brides.... Unbelievable!

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Asshats
2/14/2013 10:24:22 am

Takes all kinds. Mysognistic trolls abound.

Funny how the butterball dude comes from land o lakes :D

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