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Ain't That About a Bitch......?

9/21/2012

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So I *had* a blog post here.... because it appears that El Capitan's boss reads my blog.
Frankly, I have a lot to say to that person about the pressure I feel they put on El Capitan and it's VERY negative affect it had on my family.... but I was advised by a regular reader to take it down for some (I thought) possibly valid reasons.

Free speech only 'applies' when you aren't going to possibly damage a company's market share, obviously.  lol

It's ironic to me that while I've essentially 'lost' my job - having to pack up the studio and sell the home where I made a living.... I *still* have to protect and be worried about El Capitan losing his job. 

Or possibly even a large company suing me for potentially making their company look bad by my revelations.... well, that's ok because I don't have a pot to piss in, and I only have a family members window to throw it out of at the moment.  so.... be my guest. 

This week has been hard.... but oddly enough, I haven't cried nearly as much as I have.  It's been brutal to pack up all my props and think about all the various babies that have used them.  It's really saying goodbye to a bit of a era for me..... I really love my clients and following them and their babies as they go to pre-school is one of the highlights of my "job".  Losing the baby studio is heartbreaking for me.

But yeah - we don't want to affect any large companies stock share.  THAT would be a tragedy - and potentially a legal issue too?

Isn't that *remotely* funny to anyone but me?  People always talk about 'what's gone wrong' in our society... and *THAT* RIGHT THERE is what has gone wrong.  We've stopped caring about PEOPLE and we've long ago stopped looking at the consequences of our actions and we sure as sh*t don't take responsibility for those consequences.

I read a survey recently and it suggested that many people who happen upon the scene of an accident, or an injured person - they often choose NOT to stop and help because they fear being 'blamed' for the injury and sued.

What?

Is *that* the world as live in..... just - watch as the entire place burns itself down but no one wants to grab a hose because they might later be sued for causing 'water damage'?  Seems that way.

So inspite of how I may or may not feel El Capitans job might have negatively affected my family - I won't talk about it here.  BTW - Mr. BOSS MAN - you should know that I have NEVER posted El Capitan's name or the name of the company - and I won't.  just fyi......

It seems, sometimes, like we just don't care anymore about *PEOPLE*.

I was living in the UK when Princess Diana died.... it was tragically sad.  I don't know how many days I cried - seeing her pictures and more and more stories.  Sure, I didn't *know* her, but like millions and millions of people I was touched by her kindness and her willingness to help others.  I was inspired - like zillions of people - by the selfless example she set in trying to *do* things to bring about awareness to the IDEA of being *kind*. 

She showed a frightened 90s world that holding the hand of a person with HIV/AIDS - wasn't going to make you sick, wasn't going to kill you... but *was* going to provide comfort to someone who might need it.

She truly was the Princess of the People.

I remember vividly the photos of the boys being pulled from school and told the news, I remember their stoic faces walking behind her casket - still doing their duty and ... still following theith Mother's example and shaking the hands of the thousands and thousands who lined the street to see their Princess and show thier support for her beloved sons.

As if losing their Mother isn't enough.... NOW - NOW we print pictures of Prince Williams wife - topless?

Seriously?

Frankly - I do not find it all interesting to know that Kate Middleton has tits.  I'm sure she has them - in fact, she also two legs, two arms, glorious brown hair, two eyes, a bum, two feet..... I don't need to see 'photographic proof' of this...... I just assume all her parts are there and in 'working' order.  Mind you - it's NONE of my business if they aren't....

But -  *WHY* would someone publish that?  What good does that do anyone?

The Duchess... wait - she's a Duchess -right?  Indeed she is The Duchess of Cambridge - so she sunbathes on private property topless.... who gives a sh*t?  Oh... and by the way she does this with her AMAZING body and in the company of her Prince.

HER PRINCE.  She's very much like a bit of a Cinderella - again... someone the people can relate, too.  Someone married for love who wants to serve the people of the United Kingdom, and for her troubles, she gets some sleezy magazine to post pictures of her topless?

It's a shame really.

We have to stop trading on PEOPLE for money.  Haven't the two Princess' lost enough?  Is it at all justified that they should lose any more......?  Not at all.

So ...... I took down my post because even though I am upset, even though *I* have lost everything... I recognize that my losing things doesn't mean I would want other people to lose out as well.  No, I wouldn't want people to rally up and boycot a business (Kristen Stewart is exempt from this statement, lol) - because that business employs many, many people and I wouldn't want the public finding out who El Capitan is to cause them harm inadvertantly.  That doesn't seem fair.... how many single parents support a family working for said company at large... right? 

The greater good should always outweigh our personal good.  That's just my two cents.


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Alex
9/21/2012 01:02:08 am


Elle, this comments section is still screwed up.

I could go into a long tl;dr, and have actually erased one, because I'd sooner give you bullet points and have you read it, for your sake.

What you just posted will either cause your ex's boss to reflect, or, more likely, cause a tremendous amount of trouble for your ex in the company. Trust me, they are exposed in this and will move to cover themselves and their image.

1. You've hinted on this blog that finding out who your ex is and where he works wouldn't be hard.  You're right.  It took me 20 minutes and that was because I was interrupted. I'm stunned he hasn't been 4 Chan'd. His secret is safe with me, I'm a nobody on the other side of the country trying to change the course of my own marriage.

2.  The company has reason to believe that some shoppers will refuse to shop there as a boycott against your ex. His personal life could negatively affect sales. His image is damaged, thus, their sales are.

3. You've just damaged *their* image by portraying them as abusive employers, which may cause other people to stop shopping there out of principle. Side note; in a shakey market, your ex is not unique in working long hours for their jobs.

4. It seems like Yoga Girl was possibly met at work?  This opens them up to a whole slew of problems regarding relationships in the workplace.

5. Most companies have their employees sign contracts not to bash the company, either directly or via a 3rd party and violations can yield termination.  What you accuse them of occurred when you were still married.  They will have enough grounds to make life difficult.

6. MOST IMPORTANT!! This company hasn't been doing well for awhile, and it's possible that lay offs can occur, especially in this market. When layoffs occur,  do you want your ex to have allies in the company who will try to shield him, or find no reason to try and keep someone who is a good worker, but nonetheless a liability to them, regarding workplace relationships, and public image problems?   Again, there are many good workers, your ex is not indispensable. 

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emma
9/21/2012 06:58:24 am

that's the second post that I have noticed pulled down. You do what you need to do... the other one was the "dear yoga girl" post which at least I got to enjoy before it went down. Sorry you have to keep quiet about much- although most of it makes sense. protect your children and their father. worrying about corporate actions is just another level. hugs

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Slightly Bitter Too
9/22/2012 05:42:13 am

I had a slight chuckle when I read about what you we're thinking about his employer. I use to be that way too until I realized it's not the employer doing anything. It's the spouse not able to juggle multiple demands on his time and using the employer as an excuse because it's convenient and plausible and it allows breathing space from reality for us both (avoiding confrontation). I've since wised up and the employer is no longer the villain.

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